Dating complete opposites
Another important finding of this study was that when researchers examined the level of marital happiness and satisfaction, the happier couples had the most similar personalities, though not necessarily similar attitudes.
So it may seem like a romantic idea to get involved with a loud outgoing man when you see yourself as a quieter more introverted woman, but the evidence suggests you won’t actually be that attracted to him.
The more similar you are to one another, the easier it is because you don’t have to do as much compromising when you already agree.
When you come from a similar place of upbringing, you tend to have similar feelings about raising your own family.
For people who are drawn to newness or are looking for something they wish they had but lack, the attraction to someone different from themselves can be quite intoxicating, at least initially.
But there have been several studies looking at whether opposites do indeed attract and for the most part the answer seems to be no.
If you do end up together, it will be harder on the relationship because very different levels of mood, extroversion and conscientiousness will cause a lot of conflict as you continue to live together.
Is one of you a "Debbie Downer" and the other perpetually cheerful?Specifically, they wanted to examine whether couples that are more similar in terms of are more satisfied than those who are more dissimilar.Here's what the researchers did: They recruited couples in romantic relationships and gave them a battery of tests five times over the course of a year (approximately once every two months).Then, a 2009 study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that among newly married couples, there was a strikingly high similarity to each other in the area of attitudes and values, and smaller amount of similarity to one another when it came to elements of personality.Once again, this demonstrated that people were picking mates like themselves.